![]() ![]() You talk to your enemies.” – attributed to both Moshe Dayan ( Newsweek, 17 October 1977) and Desmond Tutu “ If you want to make peace, don’t talk to your friends. Here are a few quotes and excerpts that reflect a more positive and less conflict-avoidant definition of peace-what in my opinion real peace is all about. The more fiercely we have dedicated ourselves wholly to truth and reality-including facing our own and others’ mortality-then the less conflict-avoidant we will be. On the other hand, if we tend to be adept at thinking critically, if we tend to be growth-oriented, seeking to self-actualize and self-transcend, if we tend to see the bigger picture, if we tend not to shy away from difficulty and confrontation and challenge, if we tend to be assertive rather than passive, yielding, accommodating, and oriented toward people-pleasing-then our definition of peace will reflect that. ![]() Most of us tend to think of peace negatively, in terms of the avoiding of tension and stress and conflict.īut this may not be the most productive way to look at peace.īecause perhaps peace can be better thought of in a more positive way-as the ability to deal with conflict directly, fairly, reasonably, and justly, without avoiding it, and without resorting to violence.īut if we tend to be conflict-avoidant by nature/birth-if we tend to be very susceptible to stress and anxiety and to being emotionally overwhelmed, if we tend to be afraid of feeling ashamed and or inferior / inadequate, if we tend to be what Maslow referred to as “deficit and repair oriented” (somewhere around 95% – 98% of human beings)-then our definition of peace will reflect that. ![]() Peace is a nebulous word, having at least *two* definitions.Īnd the way that people will tend to define “peace” will depend not so much on their-which is to say -*our*-intellect or intellectual understanding of the concept but rather on our level of differentiation-that is, how emotionally mature we are, what our capacity to handle stress and anxiety and adversity without flooding or becoming overwhelmed emotionally is. ![]()
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